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The Gift of Presence: Mid-year check up


Family spending quality time together, drinking tea and bonding on the couch.

As we reach the midpoint of another year, it's a time for reflection on the passage of time and the meaningful moments that shape our lives. Time, especially with our children, is both precious and finite. By the age of 18, we'll have shared approximately 6,570 days with them. Within this time, there are pivotal moments that weave our lives together.


Reflecting on Milestones and Memories


Consider these milestones: 13 first days of school, 12 Spring breaks, 20 visits from the tooth fairy, 12 Easter baskets, 8-12 field trips, 1-2 proms, 1 first date, 1 driver's license, and perhaps 1-2 chances to see them don the cap and gown of graduation. When we add up these moments, we find that they amount to maybe 30 days, factoring in the time spent preparing for and experiencing these events. In the grand scheme of 6,570 days, it's a mere fraction, less than 1/10 of a percentage.


Quality Over Quantity in Family Time

But it's not about the quantity of time spent; it's the quality of those moments. In a fast-paced world, nurturing emotional connections, establishing time together, sharing meaningful experiences, and being present become paramount. These connections form the foundation of resilient families and grounded individuals, especially in times of uncertainty.


The Importance of Being Present


Maya Angelou's wisdom reminds us that life is measured not by breaths but by breathtaking moments. In an age of digital distractions, genuine human connection is invaluable. Putting away devices and being fully present with our children fosters profound conversations and shared experiences that shape their lives.


Teaching Emotional Tools for Life


Our presence equips our children with the emotional tools to navigate challenges and a more interdependent world. By teaching personal responsibility, discipline, empathy, communication, and the importance of connection, we prepare them for an uncertain future with confidence. The midpoint of another year offers us an opportunity to reaffirm our commitment to being present in our children's and spouses’ lives. Let's cherish the moments that take our breath away, for they are the ones that truly matter.


Creating Lasting Memories Together


These moments are the ones that take our breath away, whether it's a heart-to-heart talk about their dreams, a bike ride, a spontaneous adventure, or simply sitting together and enjoying each other's company. These are the memories that will shape their lives and leave an indelible mark on their hearts.


Building Bonds through Everyday Routines


Even our everyday routines and rituals can become powerful bonding experiences. Cooking together, going for a family bike ride, or simply spending quality time at the dinner table can strengthen our family bonds and provide a sense of stability and belonging that our children will carry with them throughout their lives.


Moving Forward in a Changing World


As we move further into the 21st century, the world continues to evolve at an astonishing pace. Technological advancements, global challenges, and shifting societal norms create an environment that is both exciting and daunting. Our children are growing up in a world that is vastly different from the one we knew as children.

This July 2024 is an opportunity to reaffirm our commitment to being present in the lives of our children. The days may be numbered, but the moments we create together are timeless. As we cherish the milestones and shared experiences, we're not just building memories; we're building strong, resilient, and emotionally connected individuals who will thrive in the face of whatever challenges the future may bring. Let us embrace the wisdom of Maya Angelou and savor the moments that take our breath away, for these are the moments that truly matter.

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